I Don’t Want Your Advice

Medications. Essential Oils. Therapists. Special Water. Vitamins. Doctors. Snake Oil. Diets.

The list of “things” that have been suggested to us that we should try or eat or drink or whatever the case may be in order to help us get pregnant goes on and on and on and on and on some more.

When I reflect back at the past 6 years I am left a little astonished with the type of advice we have received. Honestly when you combine the amount of people who know our story because we have been so public and the amount of multi-level marketing products out there, there has been a lot of advice given. I have no doubt that if you are someone who is in a similar situation that you too can relate. It happens daily. It could be a text message, a phone call, an e-mail, a direct message on instagram or facebook. You name it, people will reach out with a way to share their “special method” with us that is guaranteed to bring us our babies.

Can I just give one example? I shared a recent post on instagram in regards to being “pregnant with hope.” After I shared this genuine message about our faith and hope, people still had the audacity to send direct messages similar to, “I saw your post. I have a guaranteed product that will work for you.” Really?

What leaves me so shocked by it all is I could probably count on two hands the amount of advice we have received that is Biblical. Surely I can’t be the only one that is confused by this, right? A large majority of the people who have approached us with their method are Christians, yet none of those people have turned to the Word with their advice. How is that normal? How is this okay?

What if God’s people were as excited about his Word as they were about their “product?” What if they were as passionate about reaching out to us to give us Biblical advice, instead of the advice of their special method?

It leaves me speechless. And my Heavenly Father? I can’t imagine how frustrated he has become with the very people who call themselves Christians yet who are pursuing and trusting other methods more than they pursue and trust him.

At the end of the day it boggles my mind that out of every person that has reached out to me over the past 6 years only a few of those were actually to share the TRUTH. Everything else that we have been told is “guaranteed” to work has been a product or medication or person or what have you.

I desire to be a women of the Word and I hope whatever you are going through that if you were to ask me for advice, I would use the Word of God to give you advice. As for me? From now on, unless you have Biblical advice using the actual Word of God, I would prefer not to hear your suggestions at all. You can dabble in all your products all day long or choose whatever methods you want, but you know what is going to heal Colby and I? The truth that comes from the Word of God.

I refuse to believe that the cross wasn’t enough. I refuse to believe that God needs a little extra “help.” I refuse to make a bigger spectacle of a product then I will of my Father! And I absolutely refuse to put anything above the Word! And even though you didn’t ask, do you want to know what my advice is for you? That you too would seek the truth from God’s Word over the things of this world.

“So above all, constantly chase after the realm of God’s kingdom.” Matthew 6:33

PS. If you are going through infertility, please head over to join a faith-based support group I founded, Moms in the Making! We are having a conference October 12-13 and you are invited!