Grace for Grieving

Since meeting my airport angel which then led to us switching churches, we regularly attend a bi-monthly healing prayer service. We are so grateful we belong to a church who is so willing to believe and pray with us. Healing prayer is now what I look forward to the most when making weekend plans.

With March being the one year anniversary of Kai’s passing it has been a very tough month emotionally. The tears have been flowing. Lots of memories of those two weeks. Lots of grieving. But, a word I received from one of the guys on the prayer team was so sweet. All he told me was, “It is okay that you are still grieving.” I can’t tell you how much those words meant to me. Jesus knew exactly what I needed to hear and it made me realize there is grace for grieving.

The reality of our situation is we will never, ever forget what happened with Kai. We will always miss him, a lot. There are days where I don’t know if the pain will ever lessen, but I trust in Jesus that it will. I believe that our heartaches will soon be turned into sweet memories of him.

I wanted to pass on the message, because I assume I’m not the only one who needed to hear it. We live in such a culture that we are always supposed to have a smile on our face. People automatically assume we should feel ‘all better’ within a certain time frame. But, that is not true. Whatever you are going through, don’t feel like you have to rush through the grieving process. Give yourself time. Let the Lord heal your heart and your mind. Cry when you need to. Laugh when you want to. But, don’t rush what the Lord wants to do in the process.

We will all face situations that we need to grieve. It might be a loss of someone you love dearly, a miscarriage, a broken relationship, etc, but whatever it its there is no textbook time that your heart will heal. Know that it is okay to grieve! There is grace for grieving! Whether it’s been one day since you have dealt with a tragedy or one year, continue to take your grief to Jesus. He will carry you through!