You know those sermons that REALLY convict you? The message given is what you need to hear, but you don’t want to hear it because it makes you feel so guilty. One of our pastors recently shared a sermon on how to handle offense. We have all become offended. It’s so easy to do. Whether it’s a situation with your spouse, a co-worker, or let’s be honest even a complete stranger – we are so quick to jump to an offensive state.
I learned so much from this sermon, including that when we become offended we enter the natural realm (leaving the spiritual realm) and it hinders us from walking in the Spirit. The enemy loves when offenses take place because they immediately separate us from one another. When we are walking in offenses and unforgiveness, we can’t be walking in love and unity.
Below are some of the main points from this sermon answering several questions including ‘What is an offense’, ‘Why do we get offended’, and ‘How we should respond to an offense’.
What is an offense?
An offense is defined as ‘an annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one’s standards or principles’. It is a breach of law or an illegal act that takes place. It’s inevitable that offenses are going to happen. Jesus said so in Luke 17:1, which says, “then he said to his disciples, “It is impossible that no offense should come, but woe to him through whom they do come!”
“And then many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another. Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many. And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold. But he who endures to the end shall be saved. And this gospel of the kingdom will be preached in all the world as a witness to all the nations, and then the end will come.” Matthew 24:10–14
Why do we get offended?
We get offended when we don’t deny ourselves, take up our cross and follow Jesus fully. There are a lot of things that can cause us to become offended including putting expectations on other people. The more we expect, the greater the potential offense. If I expect Colby to greet me at the door when I come home, and he doesn’t, then I immediately enter an offensive state. This is a very simple example, but I believe just as important. What happens when an offense takes place is it then has a domino effect as we try to communicate with the people who offended us. But, when we remove expectations, then the offense won’t take place.
Another reason we get offended is because we are prideful and selfish. We want things our way and as humans, we are afraid to admit that we are wrong. Pride causes us to view ourselves as victims. Our attitude becomes, “I was mistreated and misjudged; therefore, I am justified in my behavior.” It keeps us from seeing personal character flaws because the blame is deferred to someone other than ourselves. We immediately think there is nothing wrong with us and put all faults on the offender. When we humble ourselves before others and Jesus, then we prevent any offense to take place.
How are we to respond to offenses when they come?
Then Jesus answered and said to them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, the Son can do nothing of Himself, but what He sees the Father do; for whatever He does, the Son also does in like manner.” John 5:19
Offenses determine where we are spiritually and reveal the condition of our heart. The more mature we are in Christ and have a heart like His, the more likely we are to follow the leading of the Spirit of God, and the less offended we will become. Instead of responding with emotions, we will be able to respond with grace and love.
We must be prepared and armed for offenses, so we can act just like Jesus would. We have one of two reactions when offenses come: we can deal with it before the Lord, or we can destroy others. The choice is up to you! How are you going to respond next time when an offense comes? Let’s all be aware of how we have offended others, repent, and seek to become unoffendable.
We all have something we are believing for. Whether it’s something small or big, God wants to answer those prayers. He cares about the little details and He cares about the big details.
This sermon on the topic of belief was sent to me by Melissa and it blessed me so much. In addition to doing life with a community of believers, I’m so thankful for worship music and sermons – it’s so good to continually surround myself with encouragement and press into the word of God. This sermon covers the story in John 9:6-7 which says, “After saying this, he spit on the ground, made some mud with the saliva, and put it on the man’s eyes.“Go,” he told him, “wash in the Pool of Siloam”. So the man went and washed, and came home seeing.
In this passage, God sends a blind man the to pool of Siloam. God simply commanded with the word, “Go”. Immediately, the man left. It was the prophetic act the man made that showed he believed and had faith. And, what happened in return? He was healed. Jesus required this man to believe him before restoring sight.
To believe is defined as ‘to be convinced, to be confident, and to be fully persuaded’. When we believe in something it is shown by how we respond to something God has already said or done. Just as in the story of the blind man, God allows things to happen to both draw us closer to Him and bring glory to Himself. Even though many people believe the lie that we face trials because of something that we have done wrong, that is not the case. It’s not because of sin, but because He wants to bring glory to Himself.
Why should we believe God?
1 – Belief Unlocks the Blessing. The bible is full of promises. But, we can’t access those promises until we activate our faith. Faith unlocks the blessings God has for us. Our blessing is attached to our believing. Not in believing for what we want, but believing in the one person who can bring what we want (Jesus). Whether or not God will do something is up to Him, but believing He can do something is up to us. Stop manipulating or trying to control the outcome and surrender your desires to Him. If you want to receive everything God has for you in the kingdom, then believe.
2 – Unbelief Limits the Blessing. Don’t you want to release EVERYTHING God has for you? Don’t let the lack of receiving blessings from Him be because of your unbelief. There are several external factors that cause us to disbelieve – difficult circumstances, limited resources, delayed outcomes, attacks from the enemy, etc. No matter what we face, we have to put our faith above our fear and trust God. The devil is after your belief. If he can crush your belief then he will limit your blessing. You can’t speak doubt and unbelief and expect to receive blessings, so make the daily choice to speak life over your situation. If you are struggling with doubt or unbelief ask the Lord to help you.
Instead of asking ‘why’ when facing a trial, ask ‘God, how can you get glory’? It’s inevitable we will all face trials, but it’s up to us to choose how we will react in those trials. Believe that ALL things are possible with Him. Don’t limit a limitless God, but trust He will fulfill all the promises He has spoken to you.
I have loved reading the Old Testament recently. It’s amazing to read so many miracles and powerful stories. In Exodus 14, there were two million people on their way to the land of milk and honey when they approached the Red Sea. They were facing major obstacles. Not only were they trapped against the sea, but they were facing the Egyptian army as well. Just as they did, we all have Red Seas. We will all face obstacles or trials that we aren’t sure how we are going to get through or around them.
Exodus 14:13-14 says, Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which He will accomplish for you today. For the Egyptians whom you see today, you shall see again no more forever. The LORD will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace.” Such a profound truth. None of us have anything to fear since we are fighting from a place of victory. We aren’t fighting for it, but it’s already been given to us.
Priscilla Shirer shared a word about the topic of the Israelites facing the Red Sea in this sermon. She made these points about these verses:
• Be Fearless – In these verses, Moses had no idea how he would get through the situation. All he knew was that God would help Him through. It is so easy in the flesh to let fear rise up when we notice we are in a battle. Every time we face a difficult situation, we make a choice to either take control of the fear or let the fear cripple us. Just like Moses we should call upon God and exchange fear for an opportunity to seek Him. If we begin to believe what God’s Word says about us and who we are in Christ, we will be more confident when we face challenging situations. We should all want every single thing God has for us, which includes living in the victory He has already paid for and not letting fear overtake us.
• Be Still – Moses told the people of Israel to stop. We should do the same. Rest and be still in the Lord. Plant your feet firmly on the promises of God. Stand firmly on what He says no matter how big, or deep, or wide your Red Sea looks. Believe that He is who He says He is. Rather than relying on our own abilities to solve a problem, stand firm in Him.
• Be Watchful. – Don’t be so focused on your problems that you are missing what the Lord is doing. When we are surrounded on all sides by a ‘sea’ or problem, God wants us to have our eyes open to watch as He delivers us. The children of Israel had the Red Sea on one side and Egyptian armies on all other sides, but God wanted them to see how He would deliver them. God wants to get the glory from the situation.
• Be Quiet. – While waiting, praise God. Don’t spend time complaining or grumbling, but instead thank Him in advance for what He is going to do. Sometimes the hardest thing to do when we are faced with problems is to guard our mouth. The Israelites got into trouble when they murmured and complained. We need to guard our mouths and speak life even when life is hard. Our words have power and if we aren’t speaking life then it is best to be quiet.
The Lord is so faithful when we face ‘Red Sea’ situations. He has purpose in every trial we face and wants to help carry us through. While you are in the sea, be fearless, be still, be watchful, and be quiet!
If you were asked to rate yourself in having faith for whatever you are waiting for, what would you say on a faith scale from 1-10? Do you think those around you and the Lord know you as a person of great faith? Faith is defined in Hebrews 11:1 as the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.
What does it look like to have great faith? Jesus was amazed twice in scripture, but his amazement was at opposite ends of the spectrum. In Mark 6:5-6, Jesus was amazed by the lack of faith after he healed several people. He could have done more miracles, but chose not to because of the unbelief of those around him. In the extreme opposite case, in Luke 7:9, Jesus was amazed by the great faith of the centurion. How big is your faith? Would you or do you want to be known like the people of Nazareth who lacked faith or the centurion who had great faith?
Craig Groeschel spoke about this topic in his sermon where he addressed 3 Principles of Faith:
1. You cannot play it safe and please God. Hebrews 11:6 tells us that without faith it is impossible to please God. It’s not always easy, but the only way to please God is to get out of your comfort zone and take steps of faith. Don’t let your fear of failure keep you from taking a step of faith. It’s not always going to make sense. Actually, most of the time it won’t make sense, but you have to step out of the boat, just like Peter did, to find out what He has in store for you.
2. As long as you have a guarantee, you don’t have faith.When we can see something or know when something is going to happen it isn’t called faith. Faith is all about believing in the unseen.It’s so easy to want to control our situations. We want to know everything, but knowing all the whens and whys isn’t faith. Faith is when we don’t know why and we believe anyway. When we live by faith, it’s relying on God’s word and His character, instead of what all of our natural circumstances are dictating. You can have faith or you can have control, but you can’t have both.
3. To step toward your destiny, you have to step away from your security.Hebrews 11:8 says “By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.” How many of us feel like we don’t know where we are going? When you are called out upon the waves will you obey and go, just like Abraham did? The purpose of taking a step of faith isn’t for the outcome you want, but it’s trusting the faithfulness of God despite your circumstances around you.
I’ll be honest – our journey doesn’t make much sense to me. I’m not sure why the Lord has called us to wait. I don’t know why we have been told not to pursue fertility treatments or adoption or not even track/chart. But, what I do know is that our faith in Him is what He desires. Just like Abraham, He wants us to obey and wait even when we don’t understand.
What great faith steps are you taking? Would God be amazed at your lack of faith or amazed by your great faith? I want it to be the latter! Join me in having great faith in our Lord! Have assurance of things hoped for, even though they can’t yet be seen.
How many times have you asked that question? It’s probably a question that most, if not every believer has asked. It seems if we knew when our trial would end we would never grow weary or complain, but when it goes on and on with no end is when we start to ask the Lord, How Long?
In Psalm 13, David starts out with the same question. He is discouraged. He is in despair. He asks the Lord 4 times How Long, but gets no answer.
How long will you forget me, Lord? Forever? How long will you look the other way when I am in need? How long must I be hiding daily anguish in my heart? How long shall my enemy have the upper hand? Answer me, O Lord my God; give me light in my darkness lest I die. Don’t let my enemies say, “We have conquered him!” Don’t let them gloat that I am down. But I will always trust in you and in your mercy and shall rejoice in your salvation.I will sing to the Lord because he has blessed me so richly. Psalm 13:1-6
David receives silence when he cries out to the Lord. I know David isn’t the only one that feels like his prayers and questions are unanswered and delayed. In a recent sermon on Psalm 13, I love what Tim Dilena says, “Delays show how mature you are.” How are you choosing to react to your delays? Are you using them to edify your walk with Christ, or are you throwing tantrums like a young child?
There is a quote by Oswald Chambers that says, “Has God trusted you with His silence— a silence that has great meaning? God’s silences are actually His answers. His silence is the sign that He is bringing you in a more wonderful understanding of Himself.” Isn’t that the truth? Isn’t it in the trials and God’s silence where we grow more dependent on Him and gain better understanding of who He is?
If you are anything like me, you are always in a hurry, but God doesn’t work that way. He is always right on time. He is never early and He is never late. He uses the silence, the wait, the trials, the hardships, and the suffering for our good.His delays are not His denials, but instead we grow more mature while waiting.
In Psalms 13:5, David goes from desperation to encouragement. He goes from pouting to shouting praises. There is a shift that takes place and he realizes that he does trust God. He decides to sing praises to the Lord for He is good. It’s ok to ask the Lord ‘How Long?’, but are you spending more time pouting or shouting? Choose to turn your pouts into shouts of joy and praise to the Lord.
I can’t wait for our breakthrough! I can’t wait to literally birth the impossible. We know our children are going to enter this world because of a miracle the Lord is going to do. He is going to take a situation that is impossible on paper and according to the doctors authority and He is going to make it happen.
Why would we trust the Lord for something so impossible? Because that is what Jesus loves to do – Births life into impossible situations. Not just physical births, but emotional and spiritual too. He is looking for people and situations that are completely surrendered to Him so He can perform a miracle.
The power of the miracles the Lord does is in the word He speaks. It’s what His word says – Nothing is impossible with Him. It’s not in what we do or don’t do. The promise is in the word from the Lord. That is why it’s so important to be in the word – so that we know what His promises are for us!
I love Bill Johnson’s message about miracles. He reminded me that all the barren women in the bible conceived. Isn’t it amazing that every barren woman had children? Hannah and Sarah contended even though they were barren. Mary surrendered even though she wasn’t married. These aren’t the only ladies who have testimonies of impossible situations.
We are all designed to give birth to something impossible. God is waiting for us to surrender to Him. Get before God and be brutally honest. He wants to be known as your God. He takes delight in you. He loves the idea of manifesting Himself through you. Jesus wants to do something by bringing the impossible out of you, but you first must allow Him to do so.
The feeding of 5,000 in the gospels is a perfect story when reflecting on the miracles of Jesus. If you have never heard it, you can read John 6 below, but there were 5,000 men who needed to be fed. Jesus performed a miracle by feeding all of them using 2 fish and 5 loaves.
Jesus soon saw a great crowd of people climbing the hill, looking for him. Turning to Philip, he asked, “Philip, where can we buy bread to feed all these people?” He was testing Philip, for he already knew what he was going to do. Philip replied, “It would take a small fortune to feed them!” Then Andrew, Simon Peter’s brother, spoke up. “There’s a young boy here with five barley loaves and two fish. But what good is that with this huge crowd?” Tell everyone to sit down,”Jesus ordered. So all of them — the men alone numbered five thousand — sat down on the grassy slopes. Then Jesus took the loaves, gave thanks to God, and passed them out to the people. Afterward he did the same with the fish. And they all ate until they were full. “Now gather the leftovers,” Jesus told his disciples, “so that nothing is wasted.” John 6:5-12
In the above verses, Jesus tests Philip and Philip gets frustrated because he looks at the situation from a natural viewpoint. Isn’t that we so often do? Focus so much on our current circumstance that we completely miss what the Lord is trying to do. What can we take away from the story of the 5,000?
1. Look Beyond the Natural – God is the God of the impossible. The choice of how we perceive our circumstances is up to us and affects how we respond. Will you allow the fact that the circumstance seems impossible to shape your situation or the fact that you have a God who can make all things possible shape your situation? God wants us to view things through His perspective, not through our circumstances. Instead of letting the enemy remind you how impossible your situation is, remind him you have the God of the impossible on your side. Greater are the powers on your side than against you.
2. Bring What You Have – God doesn’t ask us to bring Him what we don’t have, He asks us to come confidently with what we do have. He wants us to bring our inadequacies to Him. He uses the inadequate and extremely flawed people, which is every one of us. God doesn’t want to do miracles alone, but wants us to partner up with Him to experience the miraculous. None of us can accomplish in the natural what God wants us to accomplish in the supernatural through us. God takes what we do have and multiples it to be more than enough.
3. Choose to Obey – God asks for us to obey Him in order for us to participate with Him in the miraculous. When we obey Him we are stepping out in faith based on what He has said. Without obedience, it’s impossible to experience the miraculous. How often do we ask for something, but leave the door closed? Make sure you allow yourself to be in a position to receive what He has for you.
Don’t let your past disappointments you have experienced cause you to give up hope. Keep fixing your eyes on Him, look beyond your circumstances, bring what you have, and obey what He is telling you to do. The miraculous is waiting for you.
So many people live in fear. Fear is placing your faith in the wrong thing. It’s not that you have a lack of faith, it’s that the faith is focused in the wrong place. Often times our fear is faith in the ‘what if’ situations which drives us to a point of panic. ‘What if I lose my job’. ‘What if I never have kids’. etc.
Why are we so afraid of God’s Plans?
1. God’s Interruptions are Often Inconvenient.So often we view what happens in life as inconvenient. We blame God for what is going on, but what we don’t realize is that what we call interruptions are often God’s invitations to something better. In Luke 1, Gabriel spoke to Mary. Gabriel appeared to her and said, “Greetings, favored woman! The Lord is with you!” Confused and disturbed, Mary tried to think what the angel could mean.“Don’t be afraid, Mary,” the angel told her, “for you have found favor with God! Luke 1:28-30. Talk about an interruption – in these verses Mary was excited to get married and God did a complete 180 and told her instead she was going to have a child. But, she was also told that favor was upon her and there was nothing to fear. What a great reminder for us too. When we are interrupted we have nothing to fear, God is with us, and His favor is on us.
2. God’s Purpose is often different than your plans.Trust Him that no matter what He is doing, it’s better than your plan. Can you even imagine what was going through Mary’s mind when she was told she was going to birth a son out of wedlock, especially since she was supposed to be getting married soon? She had to tell Joseph she was pregnant, even though she was a virgin – talk about a crazy conversation. But, God had better plans for her – think of what an interruption that was to find out, but reflect on how the world has changed since Jesus was born.
Colby and I know all about God interrupting us. If it were our way, we would have two kids by now, but clearly that is not God’s plan. I think back to when Melanie approached me in that airport because she saw the book I was reading about infertility. If we weren’t going through infertility I wouldn’t have been reading that book and would have never met Melanie. Oh how our life’s have changed so much since meeting her. What I thought was an interruption to our plan to have kids, has been an invitation to something better. It has been so much more than I could have asked or imagined. He is inviting us to a better story.
Maybe you lost a job and you don’t understand why, maybe your waiting on a baby after years of infertility, or maybe you broke up with that man who was supposed to be your husband. I don’t know what your interruption is, but despite the fact that you think it’s a curse, God is inviting you to something better. He does immeasurably more than you could ask or imagine. Recognize that the outcome is God’s responsibility, but obedience is yours. Is God asking you to take a step of faith while He has called you out upon the ocean? What is holding you back? Trust Him! He will bless you for your obedience.
By the title of the sermon, I’m sure it’s a topic we can all relate to. We know life is going to be hard because of the brokenness and sin in this world but we can’t just quit in the middle of our trials, we have to push and struggle through them. There are 3 ways we struggle:
We struggle with other people. We deal with conflict, competition, misunderstanding, disappointments, arguments, jealousy, rivalry, etc.
We struggle with ourselves – We deal with our own insecurities, fears, flaws, temptations, sins, and addictions.
We struggle with God – Our real struggle is with God. We doubt his wisdom and we think our plans are better than His.
God is not surprised by the struggles we face. In the middle of a trial, He doesn’t want us to run away from him, he would rather we argue with him. So what does that look like – How should we handle our struggles with God?
Tell God what you think is unfair and painful. All throughout scripture there are prayers of lament to God from people who struggled. God wants us to be honest with him too. Complaining about God is rebellion, but complaining to God is an act of worship.
Appeal to God’s nature When you complain, offer praise too. You might complain that you are still not a mom or dad, but also proclaim that God is bigger than infertility. You might complain that you are struggling to pay the bills, but also proclaim that God is your provider. Complain to Him, but then proclaim who He is.
Remind God of what He has said. Remind God of the promises He has given you. Just like when parents promise their kids something, the kids continue to ask their parents until they receive the promise. Be persistent in reminding God of His word and His promises to you.
Express total trust in God. Despite what you have been through or are going through, trust Him. Even when you don’t get what you want, continue to trust that He is a good God.
What are you tired of tolerating in your life? Tell God! Always complain in faith; trust that when you complain God is listening and going to do something about it. The way to win your fight with God is to give up all control and surrender what you have been holding on to. Trust that His plans for you are better than your own.
Living in the Miraculous is something I didn’t pay attention to nor really knew nothing about for many years. I always believed in miracles, but didn’t think much about them. Ever since joining our new church that has changed tremendously. Miracles have become commonplace. Shouldn’t they be though? God performed them all through the bible and we know He is the same yesterday, today, and forever, so why don’t more people believe and pray for miracles? Shouldn’t miracles be part of our every day, normal life?
Colby and I are still waiting very confidently and expectantly for our miracle. We know it’s coming, we just don’t know when. We are the perfect candidates for a miracle because miracles can’t happen unless there is a problem. We have a big problem and that sets us up for a big miracle.
This sermon outlines how to live in the miraculous. These aren’t formulas – it’s not if you follow these 3 things, you will see more miracles, but instead they are general guidelines.
1. Open up to God’s Power–Don’t close yourself off to God. Open up to Him and His ways. Study His word and walk in a community with other believers who understand his divine power. He is a miraculous God – don’t miss out on it. Stop believing lies from the enemy – they will keep you from experiencing God’s power. Their minds are full of darkness; they wander far from the life God gives because they have closed their minds and hardened their hearts against him. Ephesians 4:18
2. Do Whatever He Tells You – Sometimes the Lord is going to call you to do something you don’t understand. But, our job is obedience, not performance. We will never experience His power until we become comfortable with His ways. “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD. Isaiah 55:8
3. Have faith in God – The more time you spend with someone the more confidence you have in them. Spending time with God is the same way, it will lead to more confidence in Him. Think of faith as confidence in Him. Faith isn’t focused on results, but on God. Even when He doesn’t do what we ask, He is still faithful. He is trustworthy despite how our prayers are answered. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I’m sharing this today, because I don’t want others to miss out on what I did. Do we see a miracle every time we believe and ask for one? No. I found that out with Kai. Does that mean that we stop believing in God or the fact that He does miracles? That answer is also no. Even though you won’t always get what you ask for, open your heart and allow yourself to experience the miraculous.
A recent sermon by Robert Morris spoke to me for several reasons. Not only did he address the topic of healing which I have learned so much about over the past year, but he also recognized those women who have lost children and those who are desiring children, but haven’t yet conceived. I respect that Robert shared about his daughters miscarriage as well as acknowledged those who have lost. I believe that anyone who is currently experiencing infertility would find this sermon encouraging to listen to.
I have posted about Psalm 103 before, but want to share the first 3 verses again, Bless the Lord, O my soul, And all that is within me, bless His holy name. Bless the Lord, O my soul, And forget not all His benefits; Who pardons all your iniquities, Who heals all your diseases. The first benefit mentioned in Psalm 103 is forgiveness. The second benefit mentioned is health. We know that salvation and health are given the same way – God’s grace given through faith. Verse after verse in the Bible it tells us we can receive healing and forgiveness, so based on Psalm 103 how can we address the topic of illness?
1. Why are people sick? Jesus bore our penalty, power, and presence of sin and sickness on the cross. When He did this we were saved from the penalty of sin, we are still being saved from the power of sin, but it’s not until we are in heaven that we are saved from the presence of sin. Because of the evil in this world, sin is still present, and since it is present we are all still affected by it, whether it’s our own sin or the repercussions of others sin. Sickness is the same way. Jesus bore our sicknesses. But, because sickness is still present, sometimes we fall under power of sickness. A lie that so many people believe is that sickness is a punishment from God. God will never punish you for your sins, he already punished Jesus. Sickness and sin are present because of the fall of man and the presence of evil.
2. How are people healed? People are healed the same way they are forgiven – by God’s grace through faith. Healing is a gift from God just as forgiveness is.For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. Ephesians 2:8-9
3. What if?So what if I am not healed? What happens then? I struggled with this question after Kai passed away. But, at the end of the day, I’m not going to let the times that I or others don’t get healed stop me from believing that God heals. God is healer. That is not only what He does, but it is who He is. I believe God will, I believe God can, but even if He doesn’t I still believe in God. It’s the same way with our fertility. I believe God can heal us and make us parents, I believe He will heal us and make us parents, but even if He doesn’t make us parents, I still believe! I trust Him even if I don’t get what I want.
Trust God not only with your salvation, but your healing too. Trust Him with your life for how your story will glorify Him, even if it’s not how you would have written your story. Pursue Him more than you pursue the healing and know that no matter what happens Christ will be magnified in your body whether by life or death. For I fully expect and I hope that I will never be ashamed, but that I will continue to be for Christ, as I have been in the past. And I trust that my life will bring honor to Christ, whether I live or die. Philippians 1:20
Last week I shared a post about the 6 stages of grief. Today’s post is from the the next sermon and a follow up to the last post – all related to the stage of sorrow.
The stage of grief can apply to anyone: it might be death, but it could be any loss. Loss of a job, a dream, finances, relationship – the list really does go on and on. I wish I wasn’t in this stage, but this sermon really is beneficial for future stages of sorrow I will face as well. Being that I have never gone through something as tragic as this, it’s been a blessing to hear how to go through the process as well as what to expect. Of course the process is different for everyone, but my hope is that this is a blessing to someone else as well.
Lessons Learned About Grief
1 – Loss is unavoidable, but grief is a choice
Our lives and the world around us are constantly changing. With change comes loss. With loss comes pain. It’s how we deal with the pain that is a choice.
2 – Grief is healthy
Grief is a tool God created to help us get through. Grief is a painful emotion to deal with, but it is also the most helpful.
The worst thing we can do after or during a loss is repress or suppress – both which involve blocking out the painful loss. If we don’t let it out in healthy ways, we are going to act it out in unhealthy ways
3 – God grieves with us
Not only did God give us the ability to grieve, but he grieves with us.
“When Jesus saw Lazarus’ sister sobbing, and saw how all those with he were crying also, his heart was touched, and he was deeply moved… Then Jesus started crying. ‘See how much he loved Lazarus!’ they said.” John 11:33-36
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18
4 – Grief is healed in community
God created us to be in relationships. He walked with the 12 disciples for a reason, don’t you think we should do the same? During times of loss allow other people to bless you.
Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2
When others are happy, be happy with them. If they are sad, share their sorrow. Romans 12:15
5 – Grief takes time
Grief doesn’t last for just one day, it’s a season that we go through it. Grief helps us to not skip over the loss, but to get through the loss. We can’t get past the pain until we acknowledge it and accept it.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven… a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Eccles. 3:1,4
How Do We Move Forward?
1 – List the losses
List all the losses you have encountered. Whether it happened yesterday or 10 years ago it’s still healthy to go through the process.
Don’t let fear keep you from going through the grieving process.
Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. Matt. 5:4
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me Psalm 23:4
2 – Have the courage to lament
Lamenting is showing a passionate expression of grief to God
Don’t complain about God – complain to Him – He can handle it. Share with him your emotions.
65 of the 158 Psalms are Psalms of lament. If you don’t know what to read Psalms is a great place to start. Here are some Psalms of lament: 3-7,9,10,12-14,17,22,25-28,31,35,36,38,39,41-44,51-61,64,70,71,74,77,79,80,82,83, 85,86,88,90, 94,102,109, 137, 139-143,145
3 – Ask Jesus to heal your broken heart.
Jesus came to heal our broken hearts. Ask Him to heal yours.
The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who honor him. For he understands how weak we are. Psalm 103:13-14
Jesus: “God has sent me to heal the brokenhearted…” Luke 4:18
Sermons. They always help me in the trials. I have listened to this one 6 times over the last week. Because it made headline news many people know Rick Warren lost his son last year. This sermon, How We’re Getting Through (starting at minute 10), was an introduction to what Rick described as the 6 stages of grief.
1 – Shock – When Your World Collapses. Something happens that turns your world upside down. Shock is a human emotion. God is never shocked. Nothing ever surprises Him.
2 – Sorrow – When Your Heart is Breaking. Grieving is a necessary part of the process when going through a hard time. Grieving is a Godly emotion and God grieves with us. We are not alone in this process. Jesus wept – John 11:35
3 – Struggle – When You Don’t Understand. This is the stage when we ask why. What we need to remember is explanations don’t help. Knowing why doesn’t lessen the pain, it doesn’t bring healing, and it won’t bring back any one we have lost.
4 – Surrender – How to Experience Peace. Stop asking why and start accepting and surrendering. This is the key to gaining peace.
5 – Sanctification – How God Turns Good Into Bad. When God sets you apart and makes changes in you. This is when we see God bring good out of the bad.
6 – Service – How to Use Your Pain for Good. Pain is never wasted.God takes your greatest pain and turns it into your life message. He turns our mess into a message and our test into a testimony.
With this being the introduction sermon to the 6 stages, Rick shared some wonderful words of wisdom about his journey and some encouraging verses.
1. Life doesn’t make sense, but we can have peace because we know God is with us and God loves us.
We can blame God, we can blame ourselves, but neither of those will be helpful.
It’s better to walk with God with none of our questions answered then walk without God with one of our questions answered.
When you go through deep waters, I will be with you! When you pass through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown! When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned up; it will not consume you! Isaiah 43:2
I will never leave you and I will never abandon you. Hebrews 13:5
2. Everything on earth is broken, but we can have joy because we know God is good and He has a greater plan.
Sin broke everything. Nothing on earth works perfectly. We live in a very broken world. The weather is broken (tornadoes, tsunamis, earthquakes). Health is broken (sickness and death). Relationships are broken (divorce, affair, heartbreaks). The list goes on and on. It’s a broken world. So why is there sin and evil? God has given us the free choice to choose Him or not. We won’t experience true restoration until we are with Him in heaven. Could he eliminate all the brokenness in the world, right now? Of course, but that would include getting rid of us – we are sinners and broken too.
Not everything that happens is good. The promise in Romans 8:28 isn’t that bad won’t happen. The promise is that the bad that does happen, God will use it to turn it into good.
All things God works for the good of those who love him, and have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:28
We can have joy even in our troubles because we know that these troubles produce endurance. And endurance produces character, and character produces hope. And this hope will not disappoint us, because God has poured his love to fill our hearts. Romans 5:3-5
3. Life is a battle, but we can have hope because we know there is more to the story.
God is in all the details. He is working every day to write our story.
Christians are able to grieve differently because we know the end of the story. We don’t know the path to getting to the end, but we know where we will be when we pass: heaven. We are able to grieve with hope.
We often suffer, but we’re never crushed. Even when we don’t know what to do, we never give up. In times of trouble, God is with us, and when we are knocked down, we get up again… because we know God raised the Lord back to life. And just as he raised Jesus, he will also raise us back to life, and will bring us into his presence together. 2 Corinthians 4:8-9,14
So we don’t focus on the troubles we see right now; instead we look forward to what we don’t see yet. For the troubles we see now are temporary, but the joys to come will last forever. 2 Corinthians 4:18
Based on how these stages were defined, I think I’m in the sorrow stage. I say that because my heart aches. So heavily.
I choose to believe that God will redeem this story. He will restore us all. He will heal us emotionally and spiritually. He will work out all things for our good. My hope is in Him, the author and perfecter of our story. Thank you to everyone for their prayers, please continue praying for my brother and sister-in-law, Shawn and Aki, as they go through these 6 stages of grief.
I keep thinking about this sermon I listened to back in the fall. The content was all about healing and miracles and if you keep listening after the sermon there are some amazing testimonies.
The power of Jesus’ healing is something that is overlooked in churches today. I believe the reason it doesn’t happen more is because people don’t believe in it. We are asking, believing, and trusting that we are already healed and that the Lord is going to bring us our miracle babies. I desire to encourage others to have that same confidence so I wanted to share some of the points from the sermon (starts around the 9th minute) in hopes that it encourages someone today.
3 Truths about Healing
1. God can heal. If He can do anything, then He can heal.”With God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26
2. God does heal. Not only can God heal, but He does heal. “I am the Lord, who heals you.” Exodus 15:26 “Jesus went throughout Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and healing every disease and sickness among the people.” Matthew 4:23
3. What we believe about healing is important. If you don’t believe in healing, it’s not going to happen. “He did not do many miracles, because of their lack of faith.” Matthew 13:58
10 Lies People Believe About Healing
1. God will heal others but He won’t heal me.God does not show favoritism. Romans 2:11
2. I do not deserve to be healed. None of us deserved to be healed, but Jesus made us worthy when He died on the cross. No sin will keep you from healing. Your sickness may be from sin, but just because you are sick does not mean you are in sin. Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all his benefits – who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases Psalm 103:2-3.
3. Other people need to be healed more than I do. God has the power and authority to heal ALL people. His power is not limited and He cares about each and every individual and their sicknesses.
4. I’ve prayed many times, but I haven’t been healed, so there’s no point getting prayed for again. Every time we pray something happens. Keep asking. Keep believing.
5. I have to have someone lay hands on me to be healed. It is biblical to lay hands on people, but this isn’t the only way. God is the healer, he will heal when and how he wants to. It might be when you are sleeping, when someone is laying hands on you, through a text message, while you are driving, you just never know!
6. I didn’t feel anything when I received prayer. Some people don’t feel anything when they are healed.
7. I wasn’t totally healed, so I’m not really healed. While a miracle happens instantly, healing might happen over time. The 10 lepers were healed as they went. God will finish the work He started in you. He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6
8. I’ve had this problem too long for it to be healed. Healing delayed is not healing denied. It is never too late to be healed.
9. My problem is too small to be healed. God cares about everything no matter how small or how big.
10. My problem or my condition is too big to be healed. Nothing is too big or difficult for God.
If you have been believing lies about the healing power of Jesus, repent. Ask for forgiveness and walk out in faith that He can and He will heal you! Remember, it’s our job to pray, but God’s job to heal.
Thankful sums up how we have felt on our journey to become parents. We thank Jesus every day for our babies that we will one day get to hold. We thank Him for the trials we have endured. We thank Him for the joy, strength, and peace He gives us daily. The list goes on and on. I love the topic of Tim Dilena’s recent sermon: gratitude. He makes the point that when we are praying for something and waiting, we should always be thankful, even before it’s answered. We shouldn’t wait until after.
Luke 17:11-17 tells the story of Jesus healing 10 men with Leprosy. Out of those 10 men, only one thanked God. In verse 16, the man threw himself at Jesus’ feet and thanked him. In verse 19, Jesus asks what happened to the other 9 men and why didn’t they respond in thankfulness? Jesus then declares, “Your faith has made you well”.
What a powerful story and what a great reminder of what thankfulness does. While the other 9 had just got up and left, the one samaritan stayed to thank God and then received more than he had asked for. All 9 men received the gift with an ungrateful spirit. Because of the one man’s grateful spirit, he grew in the understanding of God’s grace and learned that his faith played a role in His healing. This story gives us a picture that the other 9 missed out on additional blessings from God. I don’t know why they left after they were healed, but maybe they felt entitled or like they deserved the miracle.
The thankful man got something deeper that everyone else missed out. God goes deeper when we are thankful. Thankfulness takes us from where we are to where we need to be.
There are so many other examples of God multiplying gratitude.
In Matthew 15:36, when Jesus gave thanks and broke the bread, they had so much, that there were leftovers. Thankfulness multiples what you have and leaves you with leftovers.
In John 11:41, Jesus thanks God. The next verse, Lazarus was raised from the dead. Thankfulness here brings dead stuff to life.
Stop being angry for what God hasn’t done and start thanking Him. Instead of praying out of desperation and telling God what you want from Him, show gratitude.
Psalm 100:4 in the message says, Enter with the password: “Thank you!” Make yourselves at home, talking praise. Thank him. Worship him. So much of our days are driven by passwords. Passwords to check your your bank account, your email, your airline miles, your applications at work, your alarm at home, etc….
Let’s start thinking of thankfulness as a password. It unlocks the key to what we are believing for. It brings answered prayer and it brings breakthrough. But, it’s so much more important than that. Even if the Lord never once did one more thing for us, we still have SO much to be thankful for. He sent His son to die on the cross, shouldn’t that be enough?
Transition from saying “I need” to “I thank”. Stop withholding your thanks you while waiting for something to happen. Thank you should happen before the miracle, not after the miracle.
I came across this sermon from 2010 on the Gateway website. It’s so relevant to celebrating Christmas and to our journey in believing for a miracle.
How do you picture a King arriving? When you think of royalty what do you imagine? The story of the birth of Jesus proves that God’s way of doing things are often much different from ours.
1 – The Place of Bethlehem. Why did God choose Bethlehem for the birth of his son? Because God likes to choose the smallest and most inconsequential places to birth miracles. Just like we came from a small place, so did Jesus. God takes the smallest thing and shows himself the strongest. God can take anything small and birth something very significant. No matter how small of the place you came from, God will use you for big things.
2 – The People of Bethlehem. Joseph was a carpenter and Mary was an unwed teenager. Can you just picture Joseph with a hard hat and some tools? Can you imagine Mary and Joseph’s conversation about them getting pregnant? A teenager and a carpenter trying to tell others about their baby on the way. The baby who was conceived through the Holy Spirit. Don’t you think they were mocked and made fun of? It was a scandalous act and for many, very hard to believe. God chooses ordinary people to do extraordinary things.
3 – The Problem of Bethlehem – Bethlehem was not a perfect place. The birth of Jesus was in a manger and although we have an image of what a manger looks like based on a nativity scene or a play we have watched, it wasn’t what we think of it to be. There was nothing glamorous about it. God doesn’t birth miracles out of perfect places, he births miracles out of problem places.
4 – The Promise of Bethlehem – Micah 5:4-5 says that His greatness will reach the end of the earth. He will be our peace. Peace isn’t the absence of problems. Peace is the presence of God in the midst of problems.
This is such a beautiful story filled with so much hope. This story of the birth of Jesus on Christmas day encourages us that when we feel weak, inadequate, insignificant, poor and undeserving, we’re in just the right place for the miracle of the Savior to be birthed in us.
In the midst of your current circumstances, how can you focus your heart and mind on the promise of God during this season? God wants to birth a miracle in you. God wants to birth a miracle in your Bethlehem.
Tim Dilena does it again. I really am addicted to every one of His sermons. I listened to this 3x in a row, and again the next day 2 more times….. and then a few more times since then! His sermon is taken from John 11, which is the story about Jesus raising Lazarus up from the dead. I have written on this same topic before when I posted about situations that feel like Dead Ends. What I loved from that story is the reminder that when we feel like we are in a dead end, it isn’t God’s denial.
The context of this story in John 11 is that Mary and Martha sent word to Jesus to come and heal Lazarus, but Jesus waited before acting on their request.
Isn’t that how we sometimes feel? We ask something and we feel like it should be a situation where God should act RIGHT THEN, but instead He tells us to wait? It’s clear that God has his own calendar for us. His ways are better than ours. His timing is better than ours. But, if He loves us, then why would he want to delay? It’s confusing, right? To God, it makes sense. He has access to view the bigger picture. He has our best interest in mind.
God sees something larger than we can see.
At any point, God can bring us a baby. But, the beautiful thing is He waits until our situation gets to the worst possible scenario. In my opinion, being diagnosed with azoospermia is one of the worst fertility diagnosis received. Sure, I’m bias to our situation. We know it takes one sperm and one egg to make a baby, but what do you do when you receive a phone call and are told there are no sperm? There are so many things doctors can do when it comes to female infertility, but male factor is not the same. This doesn’t mean our situation is emotionally harder, because in my opinion, infertility is all as equally as hard, so please don’t take that statement out of context.
The point of saying that is, the Lord waits until we can’t do anything about our situation, because He wants us to come to Him. Sure, we can visit doctors, try medicine, try surgery, try procedures, but none of those will bring us a baby, only God will! He might use those avenues to bless us, but ultimately, He is the creator of life.
God loves us. And those who he loves, He delays. When we are at the very last string on the rope and we decide to let him have ALL control is when God is given glory. If the doctor fixed the situation or if we did, sure we could say “Praise God”, but no one else would be touched by our story. I truly believe in our story God has allowed it to deteriorate as bad as it could to get to show how powerful He really is. When we are pregnant, there will be NO other explanation besides Him. It wasn’t us timing intercourse, tracking ovulation or seeking medical help, because we stopped all of that. The Lord told me to stop trying to control things, that way when we find out we are pregnant, the only explanation is that it is Him! The same God who raised Lazarus from the dead is the same God today who will bring us our baby. All praise, all honor, and all glory be to Him!
We are leaving on Friday for a trip to California. I’m excited to be sharing a few guests posts and 2 giveaways! Hope everyone has a great weekend! Stay tuned!
Remember last week when I felt sad, but the Lord totally redeemed the situation and brought me so much joy? I came across this sermon and just as any sermon or scripture always does, it helped restore my hope and joy amidst the sadness.
If you have been reading or following our blog for a while, you know we are waiting and expecting our breakthrough soon. This sermon was all about the power of perseverance while waiting, which was just what I needed to hear.
We are humans and when we face a difficulty it’s so easy for us to want to throw in the towel. But, this sermon helped me remember some of the greatest breakthroughs come on the other side of persevering through those tough trials and circumstances.
There are certain harvests that we only reap when we persevere through tough times. When we persevere well, without giving up, we will reap the harvest in due time. Let us not become weary in doing good, for in due time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9
The Pastor mentioned 3 keys to persevering well:
1 – Remind yourself of God’s character – As I’ve posted about before, fear is never from the Lord. Any time a thought of fear or doubt enters your mind, it is always from the enemy. We know that every time we take a step into our destiny and God’s will, it advances the kingdom of God. When God’s kingdom increases, the enemies must decrease, right? Except the enemy doesn’t like this. He will do everything in his power to make you question God, give you fear and doubts, and feed you lies.
Combined with fear, feelings of weariness can cause us to view God’s character through the lens’ of our circumstances. When we do this it encourages us to take our situation into our own hands. We throw ourselves a pity party and think ‘poor me’. We start to think God doesn’t love us or He doesn’t have good plans for us.
Instead of viewing God through our circumstances, what about if we viewed our circumstances through God’s character. So we are experiencing the same circumstances as the above scenario, but we view them from His perspective. When we do this it enables us to view everything from His eyes and reflect on His word and His promises. We are reminded that He is faithful and He works all things together for our good. This gives us an opportunity to look back and see how He has been faithful to us in all circumstances.
Most of the time if you feel like quitting it’s most likely because you have lost sight of God’s character. Remember He never forsakes us. Those who know your name trust in you, for you, Lord, have never forsaken those who seek you. Psalm 9:10
2 – Embrace the process. God is most excited about the process of the breakthrough. The waiting journey that Colby and I have been on has been around 650 days. 650 days of waiting! The breakthrough, which will be the day we find out we are pregnant, is only one day. One day! Don’t you think that God is doing something in us while we are waiting that is way more important than the breakthrough we are waiting on? The character that we build while waiting will affect every day of our future, but the breakthrough is just one day. The process we are going through is much more beneficial than receiving the end result.
I hope this encourages you not to despise the process that is leading to your breakthrough. When you despise the process, you prolong it! Embrace what God is trying to teach you instead of ignoring it. Don’t be so excited for your breakthrough, that you forget about the character that is being built during the process. Think of the corruption that can happen if we receive God’s blessing without the character. I know I don’t want to be a mom, until I’m confident the Lord has instilled everything in me that prepares me for the role ahead. His timing is perfect and He never delays. He is just as excited for us to reach our breakthrough as we are, because His glory is tied up in our success.
Imagine digging a well. It would take a long time, right? But, the longer it takes and the deeper you cut, the more you will receive. Our lives and the journeys and trials we experience are the same way. The journey to our babies is just like digging a well and we will drink from this well for the rest of our life. It will benefit us not only as parents, but for years and years to come.
Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:4
3 – We are not alone. God is with us every step of this journey. What the enemy means for evil, the Lord always turns into good. Genesis 50:20. When we go through a test, a testimony is always formed. The power of perseverance is that it creates a testimony in us and through us that everyone around us can see. This excites me so much. I can’t wait to experience our breakthrough to be able to share with everyone how good God is, how He is a God of miracles and how He is a God who keeps His promises. For Jehovah God is our Light and our Protector. He gives us grace and glory. No good thing will he withhold from those who walk along his paths. Psalm 84:11
Are you holding out for a promise that has been delayed? Are you in a situation that seems hopeless? Does God feel far? Has God called you to pursue something that is making you face a lot of resistance? Remind yourself of God’s character, embrace the process, and remember that you are not alone.
If you have time, go and listen. The actual sermon starts around the 42nd minute.
Today, Colby and I celebrate 3 years since we got engaged (and yes, we do celebrate every anniversary possible; monthiversaries, engagements, etc – feel free to roll your eyes all you want). I posted our engagement story last year with some pictures so if you are up for reading a sappy story, please do!! He is out of town today, so we don’t have any plans, but it’s always a fun day to remember and celebrate.
Now onto an awesome series LifeChurch.tv just recently finished up. They did a 4-part series about friends. This series was full of lots of truth and was very convicting for me. I hope some of the points below hit home for you too!
Craig drove home the main point with this: “Show me your friends and I will show you future”.
Isn’t that the truth? Aren’t we influenced by the people we hang out with? Think about your top 2 or 3 closest friends. Think about the qualities they have, because most likely yours are very similar to theirs.
If your friends go out and party every Friday night, you are probably doing the same. If they bash their husbands during girls night, then yep, you most likely are too. If they tell crude jokes, you most likely are laughing or participating. I realize this isn’t always the case. But, even if you aren’t doing those things, no one wants to be around someone who is a bad influence on you. Do not be fooled. “Bad companions ruin good character.” 1 Corinthians 15:33
What about those friends who encourage you on a bad day? Those who are devoted to spending time in the word or attending small group and church functions? Those who only speak life? If your top 2 or 3 friends are doing these things, then most likely won’t you want to as well? Walk with the wise and become wise; associate with fools and get in trouble. Proverbs 13:20
Craig brought up the topic of social media and how it has impacted friendships and relationships over the years. Isn’t that the truth? We have gone from phone calls to texting, emailing, or facebooking. It’s amazing to see how social media has caused friendships to deteriorate over the years. It actually makes me really sad to see that some people don’t ever want to answer their phone calls or return voicemails anymore. They would rather respond back via a text message.
I don’t know about you, but I want friends who walk life with me. I want them to walk through the trials (like now) and rejoice during the happy times. Most of us can say that going through a trial really makes us realize who are true friends are. This has definitely been the case for us.
You might be one friend away from changing your destiny. Who are your close friends? What can you do to be a better friend? Are your friends encouraging you? Are they influencing you to be a better person? Most likely who you hang out with predicts how your future will be.
Be a better friend. Call people. Share your weaknesses; they are the best way to connect with people. Be present. Spend time with your friends who are a good influence on you.
I encourage you to check out the series if you can. There is much more detailed info on how to love and be a light to those who aren’t encouraging you and how to step back from relationships that the Lord might be showing you need to come to an end.
This week I’m feeling the enemy’s presence. I’m a little worn out and emotionally exhausted, but the Lord reminded of this sermon. Despite my exhaustion, the Lord has continued to be so sweet and He has given me strength. We have a fun weekend ahead and are leaving for Tulsa today to meet my friends new sweet baby boy and spend time with my brother, sister-in-law, niece and nephew. My sister-in-law got last minute tickets to Beth Moore, so we are going and I’m super pumped! Two conferences two weeks in a row! God is good.
Are you tired? Do you feel like your strength and hope need to be renewed? This isn’t just about being tired physically, although when we are tired physically, it affects us in other areas, but what about being tired emotionally, spiritually, and mentally? You might be tired of being single, tired of waiting for a job, tired of your marriage, tired of paying bills, tired of waiting for a baby and the list could go on and on.
As always, I loved Tim Dilena’s recent sermon on this topic. He reminded me that in John 4:6, Jesus was tired too. Jesus can relate to exactly how we feel.
Think about what you are waiting for. What about the waiting process makes you tired? It probably isn’t the thing you are waiting on, but instead it’s the length of how long you have to wait. If you have only been waiting a day, you probably are doing just fine, but if it’s been months or even years, you are probably exhausted. When exhaustion hits us it is easy to choose our own path. It seems easier to pursue the end result instead of being patient on the journey it takes to get us there.
There is purpose in the waiting. God’s road always leads us somewhere. He doesn’t take us on our journey to waste time or for there to be no purpose. His journeys always have purpose and they always produce character and fruit.
We know that we are supposed to stay on course with Him, but where does the hope and energy come from? What do we do when we are at the end of our rope and are exhausted? We need to remember that at our very best, we are still weaker than God’s weakest point. God is the one who gives us strength when we are weary. But, we have to ask for our strength to be renewed every day! It’s a daily commitment to look to Him for strength.So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10
No matter how much you feel like you are stuck in a vicious cycle and the road seems long and you are ready to give up, just keep hoping. There is always hope in our situation when we put our trust in Him! Even if you are in tears today, joy comes in the morning! Psalm 30:5
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30
I had mentioned a few weeks ago that God was doing huge things. Well, He still is. The past two months have been a whirlwind with Him pouring out love to us. It all started with my sweet airport angel. Because of what He has done through her, my life has forever changed. He has been spoiling us non-stop with giving us glimpses of His promises for us. Everytime He does something I want to post about it. But, I know He is not done and because of that I’m going to hold off for when I get to write the full story. The one that He is so beautifully creating.
However, yesterday morning didn’t go as expected or planned. It was a hard morning. One of the harder ones CJ and I have experienced in a very long time.
But, even with that, He continued to spoil us. We found out that my Sister-in-law went into labor and had a sweet girl (we were all hoping it was going to be a girl, but they didn’t find out the sex beforehand). The Lord chose yesterday to bring life. To bring joy. A gentle reminder of His perfect timing.
It didn’t stop there. He continued to reveal Himself throughout the day; through friends, songs, and then a couple that He placed into our life last night. A couple who we had crossed paths with, but never spent time together. The couple who directs the program where we volunteer. But, instead of doing what they usually do, they stayed to volunteer with us. This was no coincidence. Somehow the journey of waiting to become parents came up and they decided to pray for us. The Lord knew we needed their friendship, their listening ears, and their prayers. More people laying their hands on us (and on my womb) and asking the Lord for complete healing. One more thing to add to the already ridiculously amazing and long list of things He has done lately. One more thing to build up our testimony to give Him glory.
He just continues to amaze me. He makes me want to shout and dance with joy. He is so sweet. He is so sovereign. He has good plans for us. He is writing a beautiful story and we can’t wait to reveal it to all.
And today, I re-listened (3X) to a sermon that I have probably listened to 10X. This sermon is NOTHING short of amazing. The short version is that when we ask the Lord to heal us and bring us many children, He hears our request and begins to do 10,000 things to make it happen. Even though we can’t see everything He is doing, He is at work every second of the day. In our case, we think He has already done about 9,000 things, but He wants to continue to spoil us while he finishes the last 1,000. We will continue to wait, and wait very expectantly.
Go check out the longer version of the sermon that I posted about last year, or better yet, go and listen. I promise this will be the best 32 minutes you spend all weekend.
This post is long overdue as this sermon was from Easter.
This story is about the death of Lazarus in John 11. Jesus speaks in verse 4 saying, “This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God’s glory so that God’s Son may be glorified through it.” This verse shows that God brings glory to himself through the worst news.
From verse 5 to verse 14, everyone believed Jesus was going to come help, but it turned out they all had to wait longer than they expected because for 2 days he did nothing.
Because of the delay, there were there people who felt “dead”. Dead in their doubts, dead in their discouragement, and dead in their delay.
1 – Thomas was Dead in Doubts
Thomas felt that nothing was going to turn out good. He had prayed a prayer, it didn’t happen, and he was overcome with doubts.
A person who is dead in doubts might be someone who questions why if God is good, bad things happen.
Then Thomas said to the rest of the disciples, “Let us also go, that we may die with him.” John 11:16
2 – Mary was Dead in Discouragement
Mary stayed at home even though Jesus was coming. She felt stuck in life and didn’t want to leave her house.
A person who is dead in discouragement might be someone who never sees anything good that happens. They might be smiling on the outside, but are hurting on the inside. They are always depressed, feel they will never have a good marriage, always will fail as a parent or feel as though no one loves them.
When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home. John 11:20
3) Martha was Dead in Delay
According to verse 21, Martha felt God took too long. Jesus should have come back earlier, but he didn’t.
A person who is dead in delay might be someone who feels they will never marry, have a baby, or receive healing from a medical issue.
On his arrival, Jesus found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb for four days… “Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” John 11:17, 21
God’s delays are not God’s denials.
There are so many different ways we can feel like we are dying on the inside. Trapped. Delayed. Doubts. Thoughts. Depressed. Dysfunctional families. Calloused Heart. Fear. Lonely. Broken Marriages. Unemployment. But, when we seek God we get freedom from all of this.
Verse 22 says, “But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.”
So Even Now when something is dead, God can bring it back to life with His resurrection power. Even Now, when we feel dead in our delays, our doubts, our thoughts, our day to day life, God can bring us life! If God can defeat death, He can do anything, including resurrect us from dead ends.
Having an “Even Now” Faith believes that Even now all things are still possible with God – John 11:22
What dead ends are you facing? How have these dead ends affected you? Hold on to the truth that all things are possible with God. Even nowwhen we feel stuck in our delay and still don’t have a baby, we are reminded that God’s delays are not His denials!
We are in a period of waiting, still! I wrote a lot about waiting the 6 months when C.J. was living in Georgia, because at that time we were waiting on pursuing having children. Now that he is back, we are pursuing having a child, but still waiting for our blessing to come.
We don’t know how long this wait will be. We sure hope we won’t have to wait as long as Sarah and Abraham did. But, we are believing and praying big things!
I talk a lot about the Brooklyn Tabernacle sermons, and this one is from a pastor I had not heard from before, but it was on my favorite and most prevalent topic for us, waiting!
Todd’s sermon was a good reminder that when we are waiting on something and it doesn’t happen right away, it might feel like God is saying “no”, when He is really saying “not yet”.
In Acts 1:4 the disciples were in a waiting period in Jerusalem. On one occasion, while Jesus was eating with them, he gave them this command: “Do not leave Jerusalem, but wait for the gift my Father promised, which you have heard me speak about.”
Jesus earlier had made a statement about going to preach the world to everyone. But, then in Acts 1:4, told the disciples to wait. The disciples must have been confused, were they supposed to go or were they supposed to wait? In the verses following the scripture, it says they decided to wait. The disciples must have understood that if they went ahead of God, they would be without God.
Isn’t that what we do? Grow impatient and try to do His job for Him. The longer we wait on something, our standards start to slip. We could be waiting for the dream job, but settle for something we won’t enjoy. Or we could be waiting for the man of our dreams, but then settle for someone, just because we want to get married. It can be so hard to figure out the will of God. Do we continue to pursue conceiving naturally or pursue fertility treatments? Do we switch doctors? Do we take prescription medication to help improve the chances or just stick with vitamins?
But, God has great things planned for us while we wait. When He does answers our prayers, I have no doubt we will realize some of the best things in our lives are the things we did not plan or pray for. God has already blessed us beyond what we ever could have asked for and He wants to bless us even more!
What are you waiting for? Are you willing to wait? The consequences are too great if you don’t and the rewards will be too great when you do.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Ephesians 3:20-21
Tim Dilena recently did a sermon on “What To Pray In Your Toughest Times”. He spoke about the story of Job. Job was a wealthy man who dealt with many trials. He lost his wealth, health and his 10 children. Despite his difficult situation, Job never cursed God. Job’s story helps us remember to trust God during trials and remain faithful while we wait for a solution. No matter how severe the pain is, we should never think that God does not listen or does not care. God wants us to learn beyond what we can presently see. We learn from Job’s story that it is possible to endure even the most terrible test and God is always there with us though at times it feels like He is silent.
In Job’s story, a lot was taken away. But, God is still God whether He is giving or taking away. It’s easy to praise when He provides, but can we praise when he removes as well? Shouldn’t we continue to praise Him despite how hard the trial is? I believe that God gives us the ability to get through the toughest seasons. He doesn’t give us anything we can’t handle. I have an index card on my nightstand with the verse below that I have been reading every morning.
In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed. 1 Peter 1:6-7 Every trial we face is a refining process. As an example, the only way to refine metal is to keep it in the heat. God does the same with us. When we are in the fire is when God molds us to who He wants us to become. It sometimes feels like it’s all at once and that everything is crashing down around us; our faith, our health, our marriage, our job. A clay pot sitting on a shelf is still a pot, but once it’s put into a fire, it become porcelain. It doesn’t change on the shelf, but in the fire. We don’t change by walking through life one day at a time with no trials. We change while we are in the trials.
So we know that going through the purpose of our trial is to refine us, but what we need to realize is that we won’t always know all the other answers to “why”. However, knowing why will not give us what we need. Instead of spending time figuring out “why” we should invest our time getting to know God more.
So what do you do and what do you pray during the toughest time of your life? Instead of turning away, seek Him. Seek to know Him. Read His word. Spend time talking to Him. Surround yourself in community. Find a church. There is more value in knowing Him deeper, than knowing the answer of “why” to every trial. Have faith and hope in what you are waiting for, because while you are praying for one thing, God is doing 10,000 to make it happen.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.- 2 Corinthians 12:9 “Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; wait, I say, on the Lord!” Psalm 27:14
Control. Something I definitely struggle with. I’m sure CJ, my friends, family, coworkers and anyone who meets me could attest to that fact.
Craig recently did a sermon on the Altar Ego covering 4 great topics, but the one that hit me the most was “My Need For Control”.
There are two main things we try to control; people and circumstances. We feel as though we can control people. We try to micro manage, give silent treatment, manipulate, bribe, or even offer or withhold rewards. It could be with our spouse, our children, coworkers and even strangers. We also try to control circumstances. We want to look just right. We want to have the best house and yard. We want to control our schedules and our future, our kids and their future.
Just like we try to control our circumstances, Abraham and Sarah tried to control theirs. God had promised them a baby, but when He didn’t answer His promise immediately, Abraham and Sarah took control. They stepped over God’s promise, and made the decision that Abraham would sleep with Hagar, the maidservant, so they could have a baby.
Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian slave named Hagar; so she said to Abram, “The Lord has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my slave; perhaps I can build a family through her.” Abram agreed to what Sarai said. So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife. He slept with Hagar, and she conceived. When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress. Genesis 16:1-4
But, isn’t this a perfect example of what we do as well? How many times do we get weary of waiting on God, and instead of turning to Him, we make our own decisions? So what are you trying to control?
Craig mentioned three great questions to ask when we are trying to control something.
1- Is it worth my concern? So many of us are trying to control things that don’t matter that much. Ask yourself, Does it really matter? Will it matter a day or a month or even a year from now? Does it matter if the kitchen is left a mess? Or what about if the dishes aren’t clean? Or what about if your son goes to school without brushing his teeth? When you begin to recognize what doesn’t matter, you can focus on what does matter.
2 – Is it mine to control Sometimes it seems hard to find the balance between surrendering control vs. taking responsiblilty. It’s hard when we have a tough decision to make and struggle with understanding what God’s will is. So, if we know we can’t control all circumstances, especially the future, the only thing we are left to do is be responsible and make good decisions in the present situations. Examples:
We can’t change our spouse, but can pray for them, love them, support them. We can’t heal a loved one, but can pray for them, encourage them, offer medical advice and trust them to God. We can’t control the future, but can pray about it, seek wise counsel and make good decisions.
This verse is always a good reminder during times of stress or control of the future.
Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. James 4:13-14
3 – Is it for God alone?
What are you trying to control today that is not yours to control? Instead of being filled with anxiety, turn to the one who already knows! When we lay down what we think we want, God will give us what we ultimately need. When you try to control something you can’t, you are anxious. When you give it to God, you are overwhelmed with peace.
We know we can’t control everything in our situation, but we can make the most of it. We can make wise decisions about how we treat out bodies, so they would be made fertile. We can do our best to prepare for when we become parents. We can pray. But, in the midst of being responsible during our trial, ultimately we are leaving the control up to the One who already knows the plan!
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Phil 4:6-7
Another awesome sermon, by Steven Furtick, regarding the verses in Joshua 10. So Joshua marched up from Gilgal with his entire army,including all the best fighting men. The Lord said to Joshua, “Do not be afraid of them; I have given them into your hand. Not one of them will be able to withstand you.” After an all-night march from Gilgal, Joshua took them by surprise. The Lord threw them into confusion before Israel, so Joshua and the Israelites defeated them completely at Gibeon. Israel pursued them along the road going up to Beth Horon and cut them down all the way to Azekah and Makkedah. As they fled before Israel on the road down from Beth Horon to Azekah, the Lord hurled large hailstones down on them, and more of them died from the hail than were killed by the swords of the Israelites. On the day the Lord gave the Amorites over to Israel, Joshua said to the Lord in the presence of Israel: “Sun, stand still over Gibeon, and you, moon, over the Valley of Aijalon.” So the sun stood still, and the moon stopped, till the nation avenged itself on its enemies, as it is written in the Book of Jashar. The sun stopped in the middle of the sky and delayed going down about a full day.There has never been a day like it before or since, a day when the Lord listened to a human being. Surely the Lord was fighting for Israel! Joshua 10:7-14
So, why does this story matter?
1 -It demonstrates the magnitude of a defining moment.The context of the story takes place after the defeat of Ai. Five kings of Canaan joined forces to attack the city of Gibeon for making an alliance with Israel. Upon hearing of this move, Joshua and his men marched through the night from Gilgal to Gibeon where, with the Lord’s help, Israel waged war. In the midst of battle, Joshua prayed to God that the Sun would stand still until Israel could vanquish her enemy. It teaches us that God can turn any of our mistakes into a miracle.
2 – Symbolic for all the impossible things we are believing God for.What seems difficult to us isn’t even remotely difficult for God. There is no such word as ‘impossible’ for Him. He is the creator of all. He is able to make anything happen with the touch of a finger or a word from His mouth. When we feel the size of the need is to big, we need to realize it’s never too big for God. Joshua commanded 13 words and the sun stood still. That is all it took.
3 – It presents us with a paradigm with a whole new way to pray.Sun Stand Still prayers boldly believe God for the impossible. Often, we don’t pray boldly, but instead only ask God for little things that He is already doing (ie. God be with us today – when we know God is with us every second of the day). What if we prayed for healing? What if we prayed for financial restoration? Restored marriages? It seems as though what we pray reflects what we believe about God. And, if there is nothing we are believing God for that is intimidating to us, it’s probably an insult to God.
4 – It teaches us that asking and acting go hand in hand.Joshua had to fight the battle for himself, but the Lord helped him. If we are going to pray to make the Sun Stand Still, we better be willing to march all night, just as Joshua did. We can’t ask God for an A on our test, yet never have even opened a book or done homework. God isn’t just going to drop miracles out of the sky. We must have a persistence to pursue what we pray for.
I love that God spoke in past tense in verse 8 (I have given them). We serve a God who speaks about our battles in the past tense, because He already won them. He is victorious. He has already gone ahead and fought for us. He is the same God now as He was when He made the sun stand still. If He can do that, He is fully able to perform any other miracle. Our bold prayer is as we seek out the holistic approach to conceiving, that He blesses us abundantly with children.
So, what Sun Stand Still prayers are you praying for?
Tim Dilena, who obviously has been my favorite pastor to listen to lately, spoke about the verses in Proverbs 3:1-6.
My son, do not forget my teaching, but keep my commands in your heart, for they will prolong your life many years and bring you peace and prosperity. Let love and faithfulness never leave you;bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight
This is such a solid verse. One that I have known for years, but was refreshing to hear Tim speak about it.
In the verses in Proverbs Solomon gives us 3 straight paths to take:
1 – Trust in the Lord with all Your Heart- We know absolute truth exists because God always tells the truth. We can trust him because he is trustworthy. We should bring all things to God in prayer knowing He has good plans for us and already knows our heart desires. We might not understand everything God wants us to do, but we need to trust Him with what he leads us to do.
2 – Lean not on our own understanding – We should put all our weight and rest in Him. He knows what is best for us. He is a better judge of what we want than we are. We should be willing to listen to and be corrected by God’s word and wise counsel.
3 – Acknowledge Him in all your ways – We need to turn every area of life over to God. When we make Him a vital part of everything we do; then he will guide us because we will be working to accomplish His purposes.
And, what is the result when we do these 3 things?
God promises us that He will make our paths straight.
So how do we get to where God wants us to go as quick as possible? How do we avoid wrong directions? It took the Jews 40 years on the wilderness journey in what could have only taken 11 days had they sought God. How do we avoid a similar situation?
We do this by trusting, leaning, and acknowledging Him in everything! My prayer for this journey is that we can continue to seek him 100% with all areas of our lives as we look for direction for what God has in store for our family.
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.- James 1:5
This recent sermon I listened to from Life Church is so perfect for what we are going through. It really applies to anyone who is facing the impossible. During our lifetime, we either just went through a hard time, are going through a hard time,or will soon be going through a hard time. I highly recommend this sermon to anyone who is currently going through a hard time.
This sermon is from a series discussing Child-like faith. So, what does it look like to have childlike faith? I was reminded a few days ago on Christmas when my sister in law had mentioned to me that my niece had been praying for a while that it would snow on Christmas. And yes, God answered that prayer and it snowed (in Dallas, TX) on Christmas. What if I had the Child-like faith and prayed sweet, bold prayers like that of my 3.5 year old niece?
Childlike Faith Believes the following:
1 – Our God Can– We overcome obstacles by having a childlike faith and believe God can do anything. Heal infertility. Reconcile marriages. Employ the unemployed. Create financial peace from debt. Save the unsaved.
“Ah, Sovereign Lord, you have made the heavens and the earth by your great power and outstretched arm. Nothing is too hard for you.” Jeremiah 32:17
2 – Our God Will – Often, we believe God can, but don’t believe God will. We think God will do it for others, but not for ourselves.
David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. This day the Lord will hand you over to me, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head…All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.” 1 Samuel 17:45-47
3 – Even if God doesn’t, I still believe. Childlike faith is big enough to handle it when God says no.
Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego replied to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we do not need to defend ourselves before you in this matter. If we are thrown into the blazing furnace, the God we serve is able to save us from it, and he will rescue us from your hand, O king. But even if he does not, we want you to know, O king, that we will not serve your gods or worship the image of gold you have set up.” Daniel 3:16-18
So, what impossible things are you asking God to do? Do you believe God can do anything you ask of Him and if not, what can you do to build your childlike faith? After all, our Faith shouldn’t be built on what God does, but who God is. So, even though we know God Can and believe He will, if He has other plans, we know He is still God and we still believe in Him!
When asking God for something, why does it sometimes seem as though He does not answer our prayer? How should we go through life when we at times we feel so distant from God? In a recent sermon I listened to, Paul Gotthardt spoke of 5 things we never hear about prayer referencing Psalm 22:1-6,23,24. In these verses, David was desperate for God to answer his prayer and he revealed to God his thoughts, his tears, and his broken heart.
My God, my God, why have you forsaken me? Why are you so far from saving me, so far from my cries of anguish?My God, I cry out by day, but you do not answer, by night, but I find no rest. Yet you are enthroned as the Holy One; you are the one Israel praises.In you our ancestors put their trust; they trusted and you delivered them. To you they cried out and were saved; in you they trusted and were not put to shame. But I am a worm and not a man,scorned by everyone, despised by the people. You who fear the Lord, praise him! All you descendants of Jacob, honor him! Revere him, all you descendants of Israel! For he has not despised or scorned the suffering of the afflicted one; he has not hidden his face from him but has listened to his cry for help. Desperation is normal. In verses 1 – 2, David cries out to God asking why He had forsaken him. He was desperate, not because he doubted God could answer His prayers, but because he was unsure of God’s timing. The longer the time between when we ask God for something and when God answers, the more desperate we get and the more discouraged we become. We live in a society that wants everything now. And, it’s no different when we pray to God, we always want an answer immediately. In these verses, David begged God night and day, but God has purpose in His delays.God will answer when He is ready. If He hasn’t answered yet, it’s only because there is a reason behind it. There is example after example in the bible, of people who waited:
Sarah waited 90 years to have Isaac. Abraham waited 25 years from the time he received the promise of Isaac, until Isaac was born. Hannah was barren for many years and waited until she had Samuel. Joseph waited 13 years from when he was given a vision of ruling over the people, until it happened. Simeon and Anna waited their entire lives for consolation of Israel. Israel waited years for the Messiah.
Reflection is helpful.In verses 3 – 5, David reflects on God’s holiness. He recognizes that He is above all. He is preeminent. He is completely righteous. He honors God through his praises. Even though David didn’t understand what God was doing, He still praised Him. Once He looked back at all God had done, it gave David a new perspective on how good God was.When we reflect on God, we see how Good He is and it enables us to praise Him even during the trials.
Humility is essential. In verse 6, David refers to himself as a worm, alluding to the fact that compared to everyone and everything else, he is nothing. He humbles himself before God and continues to praise Him. When we don’t praise God and we turn to complaining instead it is usually rooted from a manifestation of pride. We complain because we value our will more than God’s will. We keep record of all the good things we have done and try to prove to God that we deserve what we ask for. We turn to desiring God to be the center of our world, instead us the center of His. We need to recognize His plan is always better. We have two choices: we can choose to be bitter or we choose to honor God.
Praise is never contingent.Throughout Psalm 22, David records the way he feels as he goes through the trials and his continued desperation for God to speak and act in his life. Verse 23 switches gears challenging people in to praise God and reflecting on all He has done. Up to this point, God still hadn’t answered David’s prayers, but he chooses to praise God. We need to chose to praise God for who He is, not for what He has done. What if we only received praised when we did something good? What if our spouse only told us they loved us when we made them dinner or did their laundry? We shouldn’t be loved for what we do, but for who we are. In the same manner, we need to value God for His character, not his actions.
Truth is overlooked.Often we get so caught up in our emotions, problems and perceptions that we blur our view of the truth. After David started the Psalm with asking God why He had forsaken Him, in verse 24 David mentions that God listened to his cry for help. So often, we can be so dramatic and caught up in our own events, that we forget the truth of our Savior and despite the fact that we are praying and feel as though God isn’t listening, He is!
So what does all this mean for us? Whenever we pray, we need to remember that God hears our prayers. He knows our every thought. When we grow desperate as we continue to wait and we feel as though God is so far away, we should look back over the character of God and praise Him for who He is. When God says wait, we should humble ourselves and focus on the truth, instead of overlooking it.
Could it be that God delays His answer to our prayer so that we will get over our own desires and realize He is enough? Our greatest need isn’t for our prayer to be answered, but our greatest need is to know Him more. He might have us continue to wait until we make Him our world again and realize our prayer isn’t our greatest need, He is.
God created the world out of nothing and as long as we know we are nothing, He can create something out of us – Martin Luther
I listened (4 times) to another awesome awesome awesome sermon. I say that about every one I listen to, I know. This is another one by Tim Dilana from Brooklyn Tabernacle. And, these posts don’t do them justice, you must go listen. So good!
Then King David rose to his feet and said: “Hear me, my brothers and my people. I had it in my heart to build a house of rest for the ark of the covenant of the Lord and for the foot stool of our God, and I made preparations for building. But God said to me, ‘You may not build a house for my name, for you are a man of war and have shed blood.’Yet the Lord God of Israel chose me from all my father’s house to be king over Israel forever. For he chose Judah as leader, and in the house of Judah my father’s house, and among my father’s sons he took pleasure in me to make me king over all Israel. And of all my sons (for the Lord has given me many sons) he has chosen Solomon my son to sit on the throne of the kingdom of the Lord over Israel. He said to me, ‘It is Solomon your son who shall build my house and my courts, for I have chosen him to be my son, and I will be his father. I will establish his kingdom forever if he continues strong in keeping my commandments and my rules, as he is today.’ 1 Chronicles 28:2-7
These verses take place at the end of David’s life. David gathered all the decision makers together and humbled himself to share his story of collision between him and God. David shared with the leaders that he had intended and prepared to build a house, but God responded with “no”. The verse that follows after God responded “no” starts with “But God said”. God had different plans for David and told David that instead of him building the house it would be Solomon. So, David intended and prepared, but God led him down a different path. Isn’t no one of the hardest words to hear? How did David respond to this? In verse 4, David reports to the leaders that God chose Him to be King. He recognizes that He was the chosen one. He doesn’t focus on the closed door, but still recognizes that despite it wasn’t the answer he wanted, God is still good and still blessed him. Instead of complaining, David recounts the blessing of God.
Can we handle it when God tell us no? How will we react when God says no to us and it looks like He is saying yes to everyone around us? We see others having babies, others get promotions, others get nice new houses, yet He keeps shutting the door to our desires and requests.
This goes all the way back from the first fall of man – Adam and Eve. They were told they could eat from any tree of the garden, except one. The enemy took their attention off the millions of trees they could touch and focused on the one tree they couldn’t touch. The one thing God said no to, overtook the millions of other blessings that God said yes to. We forget what He has done for us, because we focus on the one thing He hasn’t done for us. When in reality, the only reason He says no is because He has better plans for us.
It’s clear that when we seek God wholeheartedly, He will close doors. But, as many times as He says no, it won’t even compare to the amount of times He tells us yes. We must have an attitude and perspective like David. When God closes doors, we need to praise Him. What if we asked “why me”? every time God blesses us, instead of only asking “why me”? every time He says no? We shouldn’t blame Him for the bad things, but instead give Him glory for the good things.
We do not know what lies ahead for us on our infertility journey, but looking back we know that for now, God has already said no. Of course, we hope and pray it’s just a timing issue, but while we wait, we won’t respond with anger, doubt, or “why us?”, but we will continue to praise Him. We will try to maintain having an attitude similar to David’s and recount all the blessings He has said yes too.